Testimonials.

“I have been ‘nice’ for as long as I can remember. This started very young as a survival mechanism within my family system to obtain safety and attachment. I thought if I could just become perfect and not have any needs then surely I would be loved and not rejected or abandoned. 

My experience of ‘niceness’ has been like wearing a straight-jacket. Bound by its unwritten, ingrained codes, I became disconnected from myself so completely that I felt no sense of self whatsoever: I was a chameleon, a master at reading the room and shapeshifting into whatever I thought the person in front of me required. 

I was frequently told how lovely I was, how calm, what a good listener, easy company, so serene. On the inside I was in complete turmoil, but my mask of niceness had become so convincing that no one knew. I couldn’t tell anyone or ask for help. It was lonely, confusing, frustrating, unfulfilling and at times completely desperate. 

Erika’s work speaks to me at the deepest level. In our sessions I feel seen, accepted and championed. Erika has helped me to recognise my patterns of niceness and how they show up in my thoughts, behaviours and embodied experience. I have learned tools to connect deeply with myself and tune into what is true for me in any moment. This means that the actions I now choose to take in the world are resting on a strong foundation of self connection and are therefore aligned with my values and authentic self. I have become more decisive, I have better boundaries and I know more what I think, feel and need. This work supports me in stepping more and more fully into my truest, most alive, courageous and unapologetic self, and for that I am deeply grateful. 

Erika is an exceptional facilitator who creates a space where women can explore, grow and awaken. She embodies the work that she teaches and it is very clear that this is her soul work, tenderly curated from a rich personal journey, and shared lovingly with a huge amount of passion, purpose and playfulness. 

I would have absolutely no hesitation whatsoever in recommending Erika.

‘Nice’ women, if you get the chance to do this work, grab it with both hands - a revolution awaits!” 

— Elenor P. London.

“Erika played a huge part in helping me stand up for myself. I had four invaluable sessions with her that really supported me in my work. By integrating embodiment and deep listening, she led me through different ways to be in my body and use my body as the scaffolding from which to build the life I envision for myself. That vision involved being able to show up as myself in different areas of my life, increasing my self regard, and setting healthy boundaries in ways I hadn’t been able to before. Looking back, that was a lot to ask out of four sessions, but with Erika's gentle encouragement and knowledge of how to align all the parts of myself, I was able to really able to create deep change in my life.

Thank you, Erika! It would have been a much longer journey without you!”

— TV. New York.

“One of best things I ever did was stumble upon the Women and Niceness Embodiment Circle.

Led by Erika who is wise, intelligent, funny and honest.

She is inspiring women from around the world to reflect upon the hugely significant topic of ‘niceness’, coming together in such a way that is truly empowering.

The experience was an education which continues to grow in my life long after the circles have finished”

— Gemma Merryn. London.

“Having had the deep privilege and joyous pleasure of working with Erika, I am so excited for this next offering!

If you get the chance to share her gentle but tough love, wisdom and playful guidance, grab that opportunity with both hands”

— Sue M. Glasgow.

“Erika’s group sessions are so much fun, uplifting, truthful, memorable, a treasure from the heart. 

This subject is so important - thank you for bringing this to the table.

I'm looking forward to see how this new seed will continue to grow in my life in the months and years ahead”

“I loved everything about this course ... and I’m not just saying that to be nice.

This works speaks to me so strongly and I feel like I’ve gone through a deep process with it over the 5 weeks and I definitely want to continue.

Thank you Erika for your expert facilitation, for embodying the work you teach and for creating a safe and fun space to learn and explore”

“Knowing that ‘niceness’ is a ‘thing’ and I’m not alone, relating, hearing myself in other women’s words has been so deeply transformative”

“This is such important work and I am so grateful to have participated in the Women and Niceness circles.

Erika is an extremely talented facilitator: she embodies the work she teaches and creates a safe and fun space for exploring, learning and sharing.

It has been so powerful to join together with other women to start to decondition ourselves from the roles we have played and to break free from the bondage of ‘nice’.

This work is helping me to step more and more fully into my truest, most alive, powerful and unapologetic self, and for that I am deeply grateful. Thank you.”

— Ellie. Brighton. 

“Erika really knows how niceness works for women.

She never tells how you should do things, instead she helps you tune into the answers in your body.

This work is deep, and takes time but with Erika's guidance it’s truly transformative”

— Trea P, The Netherlands.

“This work has crystallised so much suppressed desire within me - I’ll never forget the first time I experienced how it feels to trust myself enough to go after what I want. Huge shift”

— Muge Y.

“Erika spoke a lot of truth that landed deep within me. I felt a lot of resonance and lightbulb moments.

It’s like I'm finally waking up to the truth”

— Lucy, Brighton. 

“Erika really helped me work through some early painful emotions.

She has an ability to be ‘right there’ in the moment with no agenda.

Erika has the tools to skillfully navigate vulnerable territory and I felt fully seen and met.

I came away with confidence to use the new skills she taught me. I am very grateful for the experience.”

— Louisa, UK. 

“Erika is warm, empathic and deceptively nice – by which I mean she can really kick your ass and hold you to account if necessary!

Her approach is rooted in genuine care and she has helped me stay true to what I care about most deeply in life.

She helped me come up with practical things I can do to help break one of my most deeply rooted bad habits and the things we worked out in one session are still useful to me now.

I recommend her without hesitation”

— Sarah Ryan, Writer. UK. 

“Erika is a deeply skilled and perceptive facilitator. She brings warmth, authenticity, play and groundedness to her work. I have loved attending her workshops, which have supported me to embody a deeper confidence, clarity and inner fire.”

— Mari Joyce, Body Worker. UK. 

“Erika is a delight to work with. Not only is she hugely knowledgeable and capable in her subject matter, she is warm, friendly and approachable and has an amazing ability to put people at ease almost instantly. I would definitely recommend working with her.”

— Rachel Wright, Photographer and Artist. UK. 

"Erika shared her story, skills and experience with us generously and facilitated the course gracefully. I felt welcome, safe and supported. I felt understood and accompanied in my struggles towards unearthing my authenticity”

“The sessions had a good balance of theory, practice and discussions/sharing. I highly recommend. I had been strongly rejecting women-only gatherings for years, as I thought them un-inclusive and pointless. After my participation in this one, I now totally see the point and have completely changed my mind. I'm in love with women's gatherings. I'm getting so much out of them. I'm so grateful for this experience”

— Esther, Spain. 

“Erika’s sessions are a beautiful space for women to connect and learn to be kind to themselves and others, letting go of the need to be nice - when being nice is actually very harmful”

— Crista. Holland

"The work helped me realise my own power and gave me more decisiveness in exploring my boundaries!”

— Liz. Brighton. 

“Erika is a talented teacher who brings her authentic, compassionate, insightful, down-to-earth style, with just the right dose of humour infused, to a topic that women like me struggle with constantly in their daily lives: niceness.

Through mediation, movement, and shared inquiry she has helped me to begin developing the skills, in heart, mind, and body, that I need to start addressing my chronic habit of niceness.

There is a freedom and sense of agency in my life that I had never before dreamed possible.

Seemingly small shifts have transformed my life”

— Shanti. Chicago. 

“I really appreciated the way you communicate with people.

There's a whole lot of respect & care.

I also enjoyed the way you responded to people's comments & questions. A heap of depth, insight & cut through.

And so useful (gritty!) to bring the notions/themes/suggestions into the physical poses.

I found these useful (practical & applicable) in the rest of my week both in relationship to myself and also with others.

Empowering to have choices that can come from within the body!

I also enjoyed the enthusiasm & quality of attention you brought to each participant & the topics.

Very grateful. Thanks SO much”

— Fiona, UK. 

“Erika is a fantastic facilitator. She made me feel completely safe right from the start, and as though I could share anything with her without being judged.

I loved her approach, and how she got me into my body so easily.

I find it very easy to be stuck in my head and I was amazed at the new insights that came up when I was able to really tune into what my body was telling me. Highly recommend”

— Allison Lindsay. London.

“Erika meets you right where you are, and nudges you forward.

In our session together, she drew out specifics and practicalities about a difficulty I experienced at work.

From there, she created a bespoke physical routine I could integrate into my daily life, as well as offered techniques about how to stay with it.

She checked-in with me after a set time frame, which kept me accountable, and allowed me to reflect on the shift I felt in just one week. Much gratitude.”

— Andrea Campbell. Norwich.

“The Woman and Niceness Embodiment Circles with Erika were truly insightful and inspiring.

I particularly liked the spontaneity and authentic presence.

I found it easy to relate to her and really appreciated the safe and supportive space that she provided.

Erika's teachings were very interesting and beautifully illustrated.

The circles have helped me become more attune to the sensations in my body and its reactions when I am in relationship with other.

I am very grateful for this expanded awareness and beautiful community of ‘nice’ women”
— Sophie. UK.

“Thank you Erika! Your work is so valuable and empowering for anyone who carries the pattern of being too nice. Participating in just 4 online sessions helped me feel less alone in my inner struggles.

It guided me to be more grounded and trusting of myself.

Unlearning niceness is certainly best done in not just the mind, but fully taking the body along.

Thank you for guiding so many of us in that!”
— H. UK.

“On the Women & Niceness course I found breathing space during a difficult time: a group of women who were gentle with each other’s fawning tendencies, while Erika tenderly supported growth through embodied exploration.

I felt seen and acknowledged during a cocoon phase, and this is tremendously healing.

I believe we all have the ability to drop the trauma response of fawning, to connect with our own needs, and to grow and take up space, when we feel safe, seen and valued for exactly who we are. This is what Erika offers”

— S. India.