How Being Too Nice Is Sabotaging Your Success
(And What To Do Instead)
For the sensitive, soulful visionary who's tired of having big dreams, but bigger fears.
introducing
done being nice!
A free training to help you reclaim your authentic power without sacrificing your sensitivity or big heart.
In this intimate 60-minute session, I'll guide you through:
The hidden cost of niceness in your business and creative work.
Three body-based techniques to recognize and interrupt people-pleasing patterns.
A powerful framework for setting boundaries that honor your energy.
The counter-intuitive relationship between pleasure and authentic power.
Practical strategies to transform self-doubt into embodied confidence.
This isn't about becoming harsh or uncaring. It's about reclaiming the natural authority that's been covered up by years of conditioning – so you can finally show up as your full, brilliant self.
You have medicine to share. Ideas that matter. A vision that won't let you sleep.
But something keeps holding you back.
It's not a lack of talent, knowledge, or passion.
It's the deeply ingrained habit of niceness – that voice whispering "don't rock the boat," "who are you to charge that much?" or "maybe I should get one more certification first..."
This pattern shows up in your business and creative life as:
Undercharging for your work (and then feeling secretly resentful).
Saying yes when you mean no (and watching your calendar fill with energy-draining commitments).
Overthinking every email and social post (while your message sits unsent).
Adding endless "bonuses" to justify your rates.
Apologizing for taking up space (even in your own business!).
Exhausting yourself with perfectionism rather than sharing your work.
If you're nodding along, you're not alone. And it's not your fault.
The "Good Girl" conditioning runs deep
As women, we've been taught that our worth lies in being helpful, accommodating, and putting everyone else first.
We've learned to squish down our desires, quiet our voices, and make ourselves smaller to keep others comfortable.
These patterns don't just live in our minds – they're embedded in our nervous systems, our postures, even our breath.
But imagine what becomes possible when you finally break free.
(Your details are sacred. I'll never share them)
Is this for me?
This session is specifically designed for sensitive, intuitive, and creative women who:
Feel called to make an impact but struggle with visibility fears.
Find themselves stuck in cycles of overgiving and burnout.
Know they're capable of more but can't seem to break through self-imposed limitations.
Want to set stronger boundaries without feeling mean or selfish.
Long to express their gifts without apologizing or playing small.
what others have been saying:
Hi Erika :) I really loved the practice of taking up space and me witnessing myself (palms facing me), that felt sooooo good! I'd never done that before. Really seeing myself I guess :) crown and all ;)
And I loved you sharing and modeling your vulnerability with courage and grace!
Thanks so much!
christina
I’ve just finished watching your session for the third time (and my 13 year old daughter really enjoyed listening to you too).
Thank you for sharing you.
elizabeth
Working with Erika has been transformative. I've gone from constantly second-guessing myself to launching my own program with confidence. The embodied practices she teaches helped me recognize when I was falling into 'nice girl' patterns and choose something different. My business – and life – have completely changed.
Sarah
Erika, your session made me want to start my own "Niceness Anonymous" group. Community is so essential for support and validation. Thank you so much for staying with your uncomfortable feelings to gift us with your work!
annie
Thanks for showing up and bringing such an important topic. I found your talk courageous and spoke to many parts of me.
katie
Why this topic matters:
This talk contains the seeds of everything I teach today in my Feminine Fire work. It's where I first began exploring how women can reclaim their authentic power by healing the nervous system patterns that keep us playing small.
If you resonate with the idea of sustainable success, creative confidence, and sacred visibility, this is your perfect starting point – a gentle yet powerful invitation to stop being nice and start being gloriously, imperfectly you.
About Erika:
I'm an embodiment coach and Buddhist practitioner dedicated to helping sensitive, creative women break free from "good girl" conditioning to share their gifts with the world – without burning out.
After experiencing my own journey from burnout to sustainable success, I've spent years helping women reclaim their authentic power through embodied practices that honor both ambition and sensitivity.