I remember the exact moment I realised something had to change.

It was 10pm, my third late night that week.

I was working on a blog that should have taken me a few hours, but I'd been stuck in a cycle of overthinking and second-guessing for days.

The familiar knot in my stomach tightened as I checked my phone – another email from a potential client I'd been avoiding because I couldn't face one more thing on my to-do list.

This wasn't what I'd imagined when I started my business.

I'd dreamed of freedom, creative fulfilment, making an impact – not a constant weight of "never enough" pressing down on my chest.

I'd built what looked like success from the outside: a growing client list, steady income, people seeking my expertise. But inside, I felt stressed and disconnected.

In that moment, I finally admitted a truth I'd been avoiding:

I was building my business the same way I'd worked in my previous career – through over-efforting: pushing through resistance, ignoring my body's signals, and measuring my worth through productivity and external achievement.

This old approach had gotten me this far, but it was clear it couldn't take me where I truly wanted to go.

The Missing Element: Feminine Fire

What I discovered in the months that followed - through deep personal exploration and working with hundreds of women facing the same struggles, was a different way of working, which began to break this cycle of over-working, followed by collapsing into rest.

I’ve come to think of it as Feminine Fire, or healthy yang.

It’s the natural source of creativity, power, and brilliance that exists within each of us.

It's not the burnout-inducing, disconnected pushing kind of effort that our culture teaches us that action-taking looks like - but a vibrant, sustainable creative force that arises naturally when you're connected to your deepest, embodied wisdom.

Unlike the unhealthy yang energy our culture glorifies - which leaves us depleted - feminine fire dances at the intersection of creativity, power and pleasure.

This fire flows through your authentic expression, allowing your impact to ripple outward without draining your wellspring. When feminine fire moves through you, brilliance becomes not something you have to force or try hard to achieve, but something that naturally radiates from being fully, deliciously yourself.

Feminine fire manifests as:

Action that flows from genuine desire rather than obligation - wants over shoulds!
Creative expression that feels enlivening rather than depleting
Visibility that feels exciting and connecting rather than terrifying
Power that collaborates rather than dominates
Ambition that's guided by abundance rather than scarcity

It's the difference between forcing yourself to create content because your business coach said you should post three times a week... and feeling so inspired by an idea that you can't wait to share it.

It’s the difference between trying to appear ‘professional’ or polished and sharing your medicine in an authentic and easeful way.

It's the difference between pushing through exhaustion to meet arbitrary deadlines... and trusting the waves of your natural energy to create work that deeply matters.

The Delicious Difference of Working From Your Feminine Fire

When I began reconnecting with my feminine fire, everything in my business started to feel better.

Tasks that once felt super heavy became lighter. Decisions that used to paralyse me became clearer. Marketing that had felt like pulling teeth became a genuine expression of my passion for my work.

And the quality of my work improved dramatically simply because I was enjoying everything more. Which was the whole point of starting my business in the first place!

Women I work with experience this shift everyday:

Sarah, a coach I worked with, stopped forcing herself to follow a rigid content calendar and started sharing from genuine inspiration according to her soul’s schedule – her engagement doubled.

Rachel, a wellness coach, abandoned her formal webinar format and invited clients to virtual "tea ceremonies" where she shared wisdom through stories and gentle conversation – these intimate gatherings led to twice the rate of sales than her previous launches.

Jess, a Squarespace designer, began honouring her natural energy cycles – completing projects with less effort and greater satisfaction while receiving rave reviews.

Business became... delicious.

From Forcing to Flowing: What This Looks Like

When your business is fuelled by feminine fire everyday experiences transform:

Content creation becomes a pleasure. Instead of staring at a blank page while your inner critic screams, you find yourself bubbling with ideas you can't wait to share. Words flow more naturally. Your unique voice emerges without so much strain. You discover the way that’s easiest and most enjoyable for you to share your ideas.

Marketing feels like connection. Rather than dreading visibility, you discover the joy of authentic expression and connection. Your natural enthusiasm becomes magnetic. You stop worrying about "doing it right" and simply share what genuinely excites you.

Decision-making becomes intuitive. Instead of second-guessing every choice, you trust your embodied wisdom. You feel clarity in your body about which opportunities to pursue and which to decline. The weight of overthinking lifts.

Your schedule energises you. Rather than cramming your calendar with "shoulds," you design your workdays to honour your natural rhythms. You notice when you're most creative, focused, and inspired – and organise your work accordingly.

How to Access Your Feminine Fire

Your feminine fire doesn't come from pushing harder, or "fixing" yourself.

It is not something you need to cultivate or ‘do’.

It’s already in you.

It’s been smooshed by a culture that is frightened of a woman truly embodying their fire.

It’s still burning in you and it emerges naturally when you reconnect with your life force, your creative spark, your natural power.

It's fuelled by pleasure, by play, by curiosity, by connection, by the pure joy of self-expression.

It's a sustainable energy because it works with your body's wisdom rather than against it.

It's powerful because it's authentic, arising from your deepest self rather than put on or forced.

I've witnessed time and again how rekindling this fire transforms not just women’s businesses, but their whole lives.

Women who had been ready to give up on their dreams find renewed enthusiasm. Those who felt they had to choose between success and wellbeing discover they can have both. Those plagued by comparison and self-doubt step into their unique brilliance with an easy, self-assured confidence.

Your Invitation to Delicious Success - join me for Feminine Fire: Fuel Your Brilliance this summer

There is a fire inside you. Maybe it’s flickering. Maybe it’s quietly smouldering under layers of fear, fatigue, or old stories.

But it’s still there - alive, ancient, and utterly yours.

Feminine Fire: Fuel Your Brilliance is an invitation to tend your creative flame with sacred devotion.

This 6-week journey is for you if you're ready to shine bright without burning out. For the woman who yearns for a success that feels like coming home to herself - slower, softer, yet utterly alive.

Imagine success rooted not in endless striving, but in soul expression and essence liberation. A way of being that honours both your exquisite sensitivity and your fierce power.

Together, we'll traverse the path from:

Self-doubt to unshakable self-trust
Burnout cycles to sustainable, embodied momentum
Hiding your gifts to radiant, authentic visibility

You'll reconnect with the joyful spark of your creativity and the steady warmth of your own inner leadership, learning to keep the embers alive for the long, successful journey ahead.

If you've been longing for a path that embraces all of you - your bold vision, your tender heart, your sacred fire - this is it.

Come tend the flame: Find out more

With warmth and a blazing invitation,

Erika x

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