Good Girl or Badass B*~ch is a trap, not a choice.

Here’s another reframe.
In my work I often get asked “oh do you help women become bad ass b*~ches?’
I do not.
Instead, I help them move beyond that false choice and into freedom.
The assumption that underlies the question is that if a woman is not being accommodating, agreeable, or pleasing ... she must be being a b*~ch.
And that’s simply not true or helpful.
This thinking is exactly what keeps women stuck.
Forced to choose between ‘nice’ and ‘b*~ch’ - of course we choose nice.
For eons women have been forced into these dichotomies.
It’s another way women are taught to shrink to fit.
Frigid or s*~t?
Selfless or selfish?
Peacekeeper or difficult woman?
These are not our only choices.
It’s not an either/or situation.
You can be:
Big hearted AND strong boundaried
Loving AND fierce
Powerful AND kind
Direct AND open
They aren’t mutually exclusive.
The choice between them is a trap.
And you don’t have to choose